Facing the Villain

For the longest time, I’ve been searching for the obstacles standing in my way, the reason things don’t go as planned, the forces keeping me from success.

But recently, I had to face a hard, unflinching truth: I am the villain in my own story.

Not society. Not circumstances. Not anyone else. Me. The one holding the pen and writing my own narrative is the same person sabotaging it.

And that realization? It’s a bitter pill to swallow.

The Villain’s Weapon: Self-Sabotage

Since I was a kid, I’ve struggled to follow directions. It’s like I’ve always had this rebellious streak, this resistance to doing things the way I’m supposed to. And as an adult, this trait has evolved into a much more destructive habit: self-sabotage.

Here’s how it happens:

• I get in my head so badly that I start to unravel.
• I make careless mistakes, take the wrong steps, and intentionally run myself into the ground.
• I let self-doubt creep in and make me second-guess every decision until I’m paralyzed.

And the worst part?

Deep down, I know the way forward.

I know what I’m supposed to do.

But instead of choosing the easier, clearer path, I convince myself that I need to take the hard way—the wrong way—just to prove something to myself.

What, exactly? I still don’t know.

The Spiral of Self-Doubt

When you start to doubt yourself, it’s like a landslide.

One bad decision turns into another.

Stress piles up.

You stop trusting your instincts, and soon you can’t even see the track you were supposed to be on.

It’s a painful cycle:

• The more I doubt myself, the more mistakes I make.
• The more mistakes I make, the more I doubt myself.

And before I know it, I’m completely off course, sitting there in the wreckage, wondering how I got so lost.

The Universe’s Laugh

Here’s the cosmic joke: I always had the path.

I always had the tools, the resources, the potential to succeed. But I ignored them. I chose the hard way, and now I can almost hear the universe laughing at me:

“You big dummy. You had everything you needed all along. You just couldn’t see it because you were too busy getting in your own way.”

It’s absurd. It’s frustrating. And it’s also a little funny.

I’m the joker, the clown in my own circus, sabotaging my success and wondering why things aren’t working out.

Finding My Way Back

But here’s the thing about hitting rock bottom: once you’re there, the only way to go is up.

It starts with small choices—getting back into meditation, eating better, drinking water, choosing happiness every single day.

And slowly, the path starts to reappear.

And when it does, you realize how easy it could have been all along.

How much time you wasted doing the wrong things when you could have been on the right track from the beginning. It’s humbling. It’s frustrating.

But it’s also empowering because now you know better.

Lessons from the Villain

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from being the villain in my own story, it’s this:

1. Your Worst Enemy Is Often Yourself: The first step to breaking free is recognizing how you’re getting in your own way.
2. The Path Is Already There: You don’t have to reinvent the wheel. Trust what you know deep down to be true.
3. It’s Never Too Late to Choose the Right Way: Even if you’ve gone completely off course, you can always start again.

The Joke’s on Me, but That’s Okay

So here I am, clown face and all, laughing at myself and the messes I’ve made.

But instead of beating myself up, I’m choosing to learn from it.

I’m choosing to step out of my own way and let the universe guide me to where I’m supposed to be.

If you’ve ever felt like the villain in your own story, know this: you’re not alone.

And just like me, you can find your way back. You’ve had the tools all along—you just have to stop sabotaging yourself long enough to use them.

Because at the end of the day, even villains can choose redemption.

If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear your story.

Share your thoughts in the comments below or join the conversation in our community. Let’s navigate this journey together, one step at a time.

Unapologetically, Dorothy! 🪄