I know I talk a lot about perfectionism, self-doubt, and limiting beliefs, but there’s one silent, insidious force that has probably been the biggest hurdle in my journey—imposter syndrome.
This morning, as I was reflecting (because let’s be real, I live for deep self-reflection), I had an epiphany.
I was working on my coaching plans again—mapping out my group sessions, structuring workshops, feeling genuinely excited about the process—when I stopped and asked myself:
“Why do I keep hitting this same wall every time I get close to launching?”
It’s not a lack of planning. It’s not perfectionism. It’s not fear of failure, either. It’s something deeper.
It’s that quiet but persistent voice whispering:
✅“Am I really capable of helping people change their lives?”
✅“Will people see me as qualified or worthy of this work?”
✅“What if I fall flat on my face?”
And that’s when I realized—imposter syndrome is keeping me in an endless cycle of starting, stopping, doubting, and delaying.
The Silent Killer of Dreams
If you’ve ever felt like you’re faking it—despite all evidence that you’re fully capable—then you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Imposter syndrome isn’t just self-doubt; it’s a deeply ingrained belief that you don’t deserve your success, that at any moment, someone is going to “expose” you as a fraud.
And the worst part? It doesn’t matter how much proof you have of your abilities.
For me, I’ve had countless people reach out, excited about working with me. I’ve built out my coaching structure, developed workbooks, affirmations, resources—everything is in place!
And yet, when it’s time to hit “launch,” I freeze.
Because that voice creeps in: “Who do you think you are?”
Imposter Syndrome Isn’t New for Me—Maybe It’s Not for You Either
As I reflected this morning, I realized this isn’t just happening with my coaching journey. Imposter syndrome has been following me for years.
When I worked in supply chain, I remember hesitating to apply for positions I was fully qualified for.
I’d convince myself that I wasn’t “ready” or that someone else was more deserving.
Even when I got my last job—a management position that was highly visible—I was terrified.
I thought, They’re going to figure out that I don’t belong here. I don’t have what it takes.
It wasn’t until a mentor forced me to actually list out my skills and accomplishments that I realized: I was overqualified for the roles I was scared to apply for.
But here’s the thing—imposter syndrome doesn’t care about reality. It only cares about keeping you small.
How I’m Choosing to Break the Cycle
So today, as I sat in meditation, talking to God and asking for clarity (for what feels like the hundredth time), I had to confront the hard truth:
Imposter syndrome is not just a limiting belief. It’s a dream-killer.
And if I don’t actively fight it, it will keep me stuck—no matter how much I plan, strategize, or prepare.
So here’s what I’m committing to:
🪄Recognizing that my gift is real. Coaching isn’t just a skill—it’s an ability that comes naturally to me. I don’t need someone’s permission to use it.
🪄Leaning into the evidence. The demand is already there. People have been asking me to launch. The proof that I’m needed is undeniable.
🪄Remembering that transformation is uncomfortable. If I’m waiting to feel 100% ready, I’ll never move. Growth doesn’t happen inside a comfort zone.
🪄Taking action despite the doubt. The only way to truly prove to myself that I’m meant to do this… is to do it.
You Deserve to Take Up Space
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you’ve been holding back on your dreams because of imposter syndrome, this is your sign to stop waiting for permission.
If God gave you a vision, you are qualified to carry it out.
You are not a fraud.
You are not an imposter.
You are enough.
And as you walk your journey—whether it’s through reading my blog, working with me one-on-one, or joining my group coaching sessions—I hope I can be the voice that reminds you:
You belong here.
Unapologetically, Dorothy! đź’•
💡 Have you struggled with imposter syndrome? How have you worked through it? Share your thoughts in the comments below—I’d love to hear your story!”
